My Body, My Rules: Personal Space

Personal space is the area around your body. Think of it like an invisible bubble! You get to decide who comes inside your bubble and how close they get.Why does it matter?It keeps you safe. Your body belongs to you, and you are in charge of it.It helps you feel comfortable. When people give you the right amount of space, it feels respectful.Everyone is different. Your bubble might be bigger or smaller than your friend's. It can also change depending on who you're with or how you're feeling. A hug from a parent feels different than a hug from a classmate you just met.

Imagine your friend Alex is telling you an exciting story, but is standing so close you can feel their breath. You feel a little uncomfortable.Notice your feeling. You feel squished. This is a sign that someone is in your personal space bubble.Use your words. You can say something calm and friendly. Try: "This is a great story! Could you take one small step back, please?"Use your body. You can also take a small step back yourself to create more room.Remember: Setting a boundary like this doesn't mean you don't like Alex. It just means you need a little more space to feel comfortable.

You're at a family gathering and your great-aunt, who you barely know, comes towards you with her arms wide open for a big hug. You don't feel like hugging.Remember your rule. You are the boss of your body. It is ALWAYS okay to say no to a hug, kiss, or any touch you don't want.Offer something else. Instead of the hug, you can put your hand out and say, "How about a high-five instead?" or "It's nice to see you!" with a friendly wave.Be clear and kind. A simple "No thank you" is also perfectly fine.Find support. If the person insists, you can move closer to a parent or another trusted adult for help.